I met my husband, Steve, on the internet about three years before we were married. We chatted for a few weeks and then lost touch. I had chatted with so many men, he was just another one of them. After a few months, I started chatting with another man whose name is Steve and is partially deaf. We had a lot in common, and I thought for sure he was the one for me. He lived in Arkansas and I happened to get a job in Boston. So I agreed to go see him on my way to Boston. He turned out to be a royal jerk. I left him in tears.
A few months later, I somehow “bumped into” my husband again on the internet. We chatted quite a bit and decided to meet. I was still in Boston and he lived in New Jersey. He said there was something he had to tell me before we met. “I am deaf.” You can imagine, I was thrown a bit. Could this be the same Steve? But he didn’t live in Arkansas.
He drove up to Boston and we met at a theater to see the movie “Titanic”. This was not the same Steve. When the movie started, I suddenly realized he was not going to be able to hear it. I expressed my concern and he said, “It’s ok. I knew you wanted to see this. I can just watch it with you.” I was deeply touched and knew this was a special man. (I told this story to someone and she said he was a Saint to sit through a 3 hour snooze he couldn’t even hear.) It’s like I was suppose to meet a man named Steve who is deaf, but I had the wrong one at first. We were married a few months later after my job in Boston was over, and then he joined the LDS Church.
He continually amazes me with his ability to sense my feelings and read my mind. I do not know if all deaf people have this capability or if it’s because he is my husband, or a combination of both. But what does it matter? I have a husband who loves and understands ME.
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